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Mission (Im?)possible: Get Divorced, Stay Friends Afterwards
How I managed to sustain a good relationship with my ex-husband
It was a random Tuesday morning when my ex called and asked what my lunch plans were.
“Nothing much; we’ll probably just eat some leftovers at home,” I said.
“I’ll bring some fried rice then,” he responded.
A few hours later, we were seated at the table with my ex-husband and my boyfriend, devouring the leftover steaks that the aforementioned boyfriend grilled the night before and the rice that the ex brought over.
One day my boyfriend and I were talking about an upcoming camping trip. It would be a seven-hour drive to some secluded nature spot for a long weekend.
“If we were to invite someone to come with us,” I asked, “Who would you invite?”
“Maybe Alex and Katie… Maybe Drew and Meg… What about you?”
“You know… I would invite my ex-husband and his girlfriend! They are awesome travel companions!”
I had many society-ingrained ideas about divorce.
Divorce is devastating.
Divorce ruins your children.
Divorce is a war.
