Jordan Chandler, great question! :) That’s how our “openness” started, actually — for the first few months (almost a year) my husband was seeing someone regularly and was able to start two meaningful relationships and I was only seeing the said husband. I wrote about it in this post, actually. I think polyamorous relationships go through more changes over time mainly because of the amount of people involved.

Back to your question, though. I didn’t have more partners early in our relationship to begin with not because I didn’t want to have more partners, but because I was hoping to meet them organically, effortlessly. But after a few months I realized it would actually take some effort to go out there and meet people, which is when I set up my OKC profile.

I think it’s about finding the right channels for meeting people — online is one, but there are a plenty of other ways to connect with other people: meetups, Facebook groups, Google groups, kink themed events (they tend to have proportionally more poly people), through your partner’s other partners, at parties, and by opening up about yourself with random people.

Hope this helps!